Konsultera de döda

Kan man lära sig av andras misstag? Jag ramlade över en blogg som hade delats på Facebook idag.Mannen som äger bloggen har jobbat inom äldrevården i många år och har även stått vid sina föräldrars dödsbädd. Utifrån de bikter han hört så har han nu skrivit en lista på de mest återkommande livsbesluten som de döende ångrar. Jag tyckte det var en bra lista som jag gärna vill sprida vidare. Jag har alltid tyckt att det är så otroligt tragiskt att det är så många som inte stannar upp och tänker över sitt liv fören olyckan är framme. Jag har strävat efter förbättring på samma och liknande punkter på daglig basis i flera år. Jag kan inte påstå att jag har en "perfekt" tillvaro på någon av punkterna, men jag tror inte någon lever ett "perfekt" liv. Jag tror för egen del att det viktigaste är att man aktivt strävar efter att hela tiden bli bättre på dess punkter, och baka in det i vardagen så gott man kan. Så att man i alla fall kan säga "Jag gjorde mitt bästa" då dagarna börjar bli räknade.

The Five Regrets

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

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